I Proposed To My Girlfriend, After Saying I Never Would!

I thought I wanted her to propose to me, but I changed my mind.

B. Kennedy-Escott
4 min readMay 27, 2019


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After four years together, my girlfriend and I knew the next step would be marriage.

It has been a conversation topic for us, more so in the past year, and we both knew that we would get married. But first, one of us needed to propose.

I always said to her I would like her to propose, I’m a natural romantic and like most girls I grew up watching romantic comedies and seeing the most beautiful proposals, hoping one day for that to happen to me. It’s not that my girlfriend didn’t want any of that, she was just… less bothered.

So, as I said, we both knew we would get married, and both knew that she would propose… one day. She did tell me that she would propose in 2019, later in the year, but I wanted a surprise. The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to be the one delivering the surprise.

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But why did I change my mind?

I knew I wanted to marry her, so what was I waiting for? I was thinking about it, a lot. I had many a conversation with my head of why I thought I wanted to be proposed to, and weighed up how important it really was to me.

Turns out, it wasn’t that important. What was more important to me was making the decision to make an official commitment to our relationship, to become a wife and have a wife, to spend the rest of my life with this woman and to ultimately show her how much she truly means to me.

So, around a month ago I knew what I had to do. Now all I had to do was put aside some money for rings (I wanted us both to have rings when I proposed), and make a plan! My plan changed… a lot. I knew I didn’t want to have a lavish, over the top proposal. I also knew I couldn’t afford the world.

What I did know is I wanted it to somewhere special, for both of us, but mainly somewhere that I knew my partner loved. I decided on Wales. My partner is from Kent, the south…



B. Kennedy-Escott

A part time writer, studying for my BA (Hons) Degree Creative Writing. My interests include mental health, politics, LGBT rights, fiction, poetry and many more!